par mitti mein mil jaen....
tauba tera Jalwa,
tauba tera pyar,
tera emosanal attyachaar!
Watched Dev. D…
Made me high…
It will take a long time till society can make a film in the opposite way…why cant Devdas be a girl next time…society has not given us accepted ways to drown ourselves in intense feelings (u can call it love if you think it exists??) and ways to rebel…like alcohol and turning to sex…
but then also...what women have to rebel against are different things… (this can literally be a separate blog)
There are four things I would love to know:
1. from men: how would you rebel/drown yourselves in intense feelings
2. and how would girls do it?
3. and today what are women rebelling against?
4. and men?
At the end of it, we all are rebelling against conflicts…what conflicts? yup...society- its norms and practices versus our inner choices and wants
THIS IS MY DAILY CONFLICT
(on top of that I’m a thinking sociologist…just complicates the matter…talk about ignorance being bliss…knowledge is hell!!)
yes, a tiny….tiny….tiny section of women are struggling against the sexual conformity vs liberation conflict…
but all women (the thinking ones) are fighting against this conflict of crossing boundaries, transgressing norms…
why are ONLY men allowed to transgress norms yet be the 'patriarchs' and when women cross the boundary, its about social honour??
Made me high…
It will take a long time till society can make a film in the opposite way…why cant Devdas be a girl next time…society has not given us accepted ways to drown ourselves in intense feelings (u can call it love if you think it exists??) and ways to rebel…like alcohol and turning to sex…
but then also...what women have to rebel against are different things… (this can literally be a separate blog)
There are four things I would love to know:
1. from men: how would you rebel/drown yourselves in intense feelings
2. and how would girls do it?
3. and today what are women rebelling against?
4. and men?
At the end of it, we all are rebelling against conflicts…what conflicts? yup...society- its norms and practices versus our inner choices and wants
THIS IS MY DAILY CONFLICT
(on top of that I’m a thinking sociologist…just complicates the matter…talk about ignorance being bliss…knowledge is hell!!)
yes, a tiny….tiny….tiny section of women are struggling against the sexual conformity vs liberation conflict…
but all women (the thinking ones) are fighting against this conflict of crossing boundaries, transgressing norms…
why are ONLY men allowed to transgress norms yet be the 'patriarchs' and when women cross the boundary, its about social honour??
fuck the conformists!
I mean women are not even allowed to think that they can cross boundaries…and even when women are not crossing boundaries of society, but being women and doing what men have traditionally done- its like 'whoaaa, stop it there'* (yes, there are societies where even men transgressing those boundaries are not liked…but they are accepted sometimes- I will not take the names of these societies/and men)
* there are exceptions where women are allowed and even preferred to do what men have been traditionally doing...but these are because capitalism has allowed it...like women working....(controversial still)
But I am a liberated woman….coz I can think freely…that’s all….that’s harder than being physically liberated…now this is personal…but as a woman there are so many times I feel like ‘what are you doing?’…I feel that if society comes to see me in this way- society will die…
like..society has problems when I be with men…when I talk to them about anything (ANYTHING)…even in the middle of the night (I add)…but more than this, I feel it inside me…I have this constraining feeling…something that makes me guilty, at least makes me think…
But I am a liberated woman….coz I can think freely…that’s all….that’s harder than being physically liberated…now this is personal…but as a woman there are so many times I feel like ‘what are you doing?’…I feel that if society comes to see me in this way- society will die…
like..society has problems when I be with men…when I talk to them about anything (ANYTHING)…even in the middle of the night (I add)…but more than this, I feel it inside me…I have this constraining feeling…something that makes me guilty, at least makes me think…
after a point, society cant take the fact that i hang out with guys, that i drink chai at the street dhaba, that i talk to bus vaalas, that i walk alone in the evening on the street, that i flirt with guys...that i drink...
well, F them...
if men, marriage and society exist to f*** women...i give it back..i say f*** them................f*** all the conformists who cant see change...who live and die in sameness...who merely exist...remember, its only the norm breakers that move society...and no society is static...its only the change makers that have been remembered...conformists are merely puppets, dumb masses, a sack of potatoes that rot in the sack...they stink of their sameness, of their dumbness, of their incapacity to change, of their impotency to struggle and their ignorance to innovation....
back to the point...and more than this …I accept it about me and I talk about it…I havnt talked to anybody, but unlike many girls, I have the guts to write about it…(but not beyond this)
Coz I believe in ideological freedom and talking about anything…after all, we are just people…we think alike…but we just hide it…(f****** ego we all have)
Sometimes I am a Paro and a Chandramukhi because I break norms…and society comes back on me to tell me that you are a woman…(that’s the beauty of the movie)
For the many dumb people - this is not about sexual liberation but ideological liberation…which can manifest in many ways (sexual being one of them)…its also a way to rebel against oppression…to hate status quo…………
One this clear…men do like women for their looks and their body
But what’s clearer is that men LOVE women coz women make them feel good about themselves…it’s a male ego thing…
Men are sooooooo lonely, and their ego is MASSIVE…and women are the best way to keep things in control…matlab, to stay out of loneliness and satisfy their ego…
But don’t worry…….women are luckier, coz we are more powerful…how? Coz we have power over men…and we can make them hate themselves and drink their life out ....f*** patriarchy i say…
But the movie is also about escape, from ourselves and from our conflicts…its about liberation…and the pursuit of happiness…
Its about being liberated and happy at the same time???
Only dev.d did it…can you???
I think I need a glass of vodka (but I like mine with sprite)
hahahahah
Coz I believe in ideological freedom and talking about anything…after all, we are just people…we think alike…but we just hide it…(f****** ego we all have)
Sometimes I am a Paro and a Chandramukhi because I break norms…and society comes back on me to tell me that you are a woman…(that’s the beauty of the movie)
For the many dumb people - this is not about sexual liberation but ideological liberation…which can manifest in many ways (sexual being one of them)…its also a way to rebel against oppression…to hate status quo…………
One this clear…men do like women for their looks and their body
But what’s clearer is that men LOVE women coz women make them feel good about themselves…it’s a male ego thing…
Men are sooooooo lonely, and their ego is MASSIVE…and women are the best way to keep things in control…matlab, to stay out of loneliness and satisfy their ego…
But don’t worry…….women are luckier, coz we are more powerful…how? Coz we have power over men…and we can make them hate themselves and drink their life out ....f*** patriarchy i say…
But the movie is also about escape, from ourselves and from our conflicts…its about liberation…and the pursuit of happiness…
Its about being liberated and happy at the same time???
Only dev.d did it…can you???
I think I need a glass of vodka (but I like mine with sprite)
hahahahah
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