I propose a theoretical alternative to marriage.
Aim: We have heard blind dates. Here is the blind marriage. Find a guy you have never seen.
Reason 1: You will quantify his qualities…the nose, the cheek bones, face cut…educational background, profession…so here you save yourself from commodification of the individual.
Reason 2: No man is perfect. Have to accept any man, even if you are already in love with him or not- you have to accept it.
Reason 3: Marriage is acceptance of the person and adjustment. So both of you have to accept what you get (coz you did trust the person who found you that person).
Assumption 1: Marriage is social fact. It will happen.
Assumption 2: Gender duality.
Assumption 3: Heterosexuality.
In my ‘proposal’ Ego is female.
Prerequisite 1: The family and the man accepts the alternative
Prerequisite 2: Trust between the one who finds the partner and the families of both partners
Methodology: Trust.
Steps: Find someone you trust and wants you to be happy and knows you well.
Tell that someone to find someone for you who you can marry.
Convince that man about the alternative.
Effects: seeing the person you will spend your life with for the first time on the day you get married! Trust me, seems exciting! Then, discovering someone who is ready to be with you since all he does - is believe in alternatives!
Consequence 1: Acceptance. (In dominant and alternative forms of marriage)
Consequence 2: Happiness. You will love someone who will believe in this idea if you do too. (We always like people who are somewhat like us – sociologists call this homophily)
Each day is new!!
Aim: We have heard blind dates. Here is the blind marriage. Find a guy you have never seen.
Reason 1: You will quantify his qualities…the nose, the cheek bones, face cut…educational background, profession…so here you save yourself from commodification of the individual.
Reason 2: No man is perfect. Have to accept any man, even if you are already in love with him or not- you have to accept it.
Reason 3: Marriage is acceptance of the person and adjustment. So both of you have to accept what you get (coz you did trust the person who found you that person).
Assumption 1: Marriage is social fact. It will happen.
Assumption 2: Gender duality.
Assumption 3: Heterosexuality.
In my ‘proposal’ Ego is female.
Prerequisite 1: The family and the man accepts the alternative
Prerequisite 2: Trust between the one who finds the partner and the families of both partners
Methodology: Trust.
Steps: Find someone you trust and wants you to be happy and knows you well.
Tell that someone to find someone for you who you can marry.
Convince that man about the alternative.
Effects: seeing the person you will spend your life with for the first time on the day you get married! Trust me, seems exciting! Then, discovering someone who is ready to be with you since all he does - is believe in alternatives!
Consequence 1: Acceptance. (In dominant and alternative forms of marriage)
Consequence 2: Happiness. You will love someone who will believe in this idea if you do too. (We always like people who are somewhat like us – sociologists call this homophily)
Each day is new!!
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